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HOW TO BE HAPPY IN A RELATIONSHIP

 

Sometimes it is very difficult to stand up when you fall down. Sometimes it seems that nothing can help you, but it only seems to you. Is it so difficult to overcome difficulties? Is there anybody above who can solve all our problems? Whom can we trust and ask for help? Does the universal medicine, which we can use anytime when we are in need of, and which can make all of our wishes come true, exist? “Do for other people everything you want them to do for you.”(from GOD`s WORD Translation.) “Treat people the way you want to be treated. Talk to people the way you want to be talked to. Respect is earned, not given.” Hussein Nishah

 

Have you ever paid attention to your relationship with the others closely? Have you ever thought that there exists a universal law of the ideal relationship? This law is both easy and difficult to understand. The reason of both difficulty and easiness is the simplicity of the law. We try to imitate every time, no matter if we know about it or not. Imagine that you have a friend who loves and cares for you sincerely. I am sure that you will try to be polite with him as much as possible. If you upset him because of something, he will answer you in the same way!

 

Yes, but….=expressing the disagreement! Forget about the word “No”. If you don`t agree with your partner`s statement, first of all you must agree with him and after that you can tell your own opinion beginning with “but”. The second rule comes out of the first one: “Do for other people everything you want them to do for you.”(from GOD`s WORD Translation.) If somebody disagrees with you, you will start to look for some reasons to get rid of consulting with him. This is one of the most widespread problems among parents and their children.

 

No commands, just questions or offers! If somebody orders me “Bring that book”, I will be angry with him. If he asks me “Can you pass me that book, please” I will be glad to help. Be thankful. We may not notice it, but there are some words which can cause people`s friendship and better relationship: Thank you!, Love you!, and others. We know these simple words, but we don`t know how powerful these words are! Most people don`t wish to pronounce these words because it sounds strange for some people, others think that there is necessity of expressing emotions and everybody knows it. However, do you think that we are fortune-tellers to realize what you are thinking before you tell about it?

 

You=I=I=You! When we talk to somebody about something, it is better to imagine first: if that person to whom you are talking were in your place what you would like to hear from him. When one of your family members or friends annoys you give that person some time to calm down.

 

If you try to answer his cruelty with cruelty, first, you will become as cruel as he is. Second, the scandal in which you happened to become will grow even greater. Sometimes it is difficult to understand people, especially during the quarrels. If you hit somebody, he tries to hit you too or becomes angry with you.

 

If you address someone politely, he tries to be polite with you too. You know that. The reason of this reaction is that we are mirrors: we reflect the others around us, their habits, way of treating people and everything. At the same time, the others reflect us too. So, we can find a great formula of best relationship: Your best treatment to people + other`s reflection of it=best relationship!

 

The power of love

 

There was an early morning. A little girl was sleeping in her beautiful, tiny room. The sun was shining, the birds were singing, it seemed that the day promised to be wonderful. Even the cold weather was pleasant. Unfortunately, it was not the sun, or the weather, which woke the girl up. It was the noise, which came from the bedroom of her parents.

 

Even though she opened her eyes, she didn`t hurry to stand up. She was listening. If she had been older, she would have already run away from the house, but she was too young, too helpless, too depressed to do it. It was not for the first time that parents had quarreled. Anytime when they were quarrelling, Imona, their daughter, wanted to escape far from her parents, or not to listen to the quarrels.

 

The strangest thing was that the parents were so busy with their “conversation”, that they completely forgot about their daughter. Now she remembered about her friend Marry… Her parents shouted at each other more and more loudly as if they had been competing to win the game “Who will cry louder?” In her mind, she was with her friend again.

 

She remembered, no, she tried to remember the moments clearly how her friends’ mother and father came into the room with a big birthday cake, and they congratulated her daughter – Marry on her birthday kissing her and saying all their best wishes.

 

Nevertheless, that kiss and wishes were not so valuable for Imona, as her friend`s mother and father’s love for their daughter. For the first time in her life, Imona realized how little or no attention her parents paid to herself, and she understood how she would love to be in the place of her friend with loving parents. She would do her best at school she would help them, do everything they said, but…

 

 Suddenly slammed door made her return to the reality. Everything was perfect: the day, the weather, their house and others but, now Imona saw, heard, thought, felt sorry only about her crying mother and angry, trying to solve problems or forget about them with the help of alcohol, father. In her small heart, there were all the sorrows, depression, anger, frustration, feelings of faults of life. Maybe they would not have been quarrelling if she had not been born. Perhaps, but she would never know about it.

 

Imona looked like a little robot now: she got up early everyday thanks to her parents ate something she found from refrigerator, then she went to school, studied, came back home even though she didn`t want it. Again, nobody met her, nobody waited for her at home. No, no, her parents were always at home, but they were not in the mood to look after their daughter. When she entered the house, her mother was crying again.

 

“My marriage was the greatest mistake I have ever done, but, I know it is never late to correct the mistakes, I will correct now,”-said her mother, and she went into the kitchen. Imona wondered, and went after her mother into the kitchen.

 

 Her mother was standing with a knife in her right hand beside the table as if she was going to kill herself. The little girl understood it, came up to her mother running and hugged her: “I love you, Mom! Don`t leave me alone! You need me. Don`t go”-said Imona with tears in her eyes. Maybe it seems strange but her mother changed her mind.

 

 They didn`t know how long they had been crying and hugging. At last, she was with her mother she was not alone any more. After that, her mother prepared dinner for her daughter for the first time since a long time ago. During the dinner, she remembered her father.

 

She took her mobile phone and wrote a message for him. Her father came in the house in half an hour after the massage was sent. He didn`t get drunk this time. His eyes were shining with tears and he couldn`t help stopping them. He hugged her mother first, and her daughter then. They all were crying again, and laughing at the same time, but this time they were the tears of happiness!

 

When Imona went to bed and slept with her parents on both sides in her bed, both hugging her, the mother asked her husband: “What did she write to you?” Her father didn`t say anything, took her mobile phone and showed their daughter`s message to her wife. The massage said: “Dad! Have you eaten anything? We have been waiting for you. The dinner is already ready. Please don`t drink! We love you! Come home as soon as possible.”